Yesterday a friend paid me a great compliment in an offhand sort of way. I was surprised, flattered and for a moment I felt like I could do anything. It really empowered and encouraged me – that she thought of me like that.
I’ve been wondering a lot lately about beauty and feeling beautiful. Many beautiful women feel plain, and many plain women feel beautiful. Why is that?
We all want to BE beautiful, but I would argue that it’s more important to FEEL beautiful. If you think about it, a person can’t greatly alter how pretty they are, but their perception of themselves can change in a positive way.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about Hollywood starlet beauty. My husband works in the film industry and I can tell you that the actors and actresses I’ve met are, for the most part, very insecure. I think true beauty can be defined as an inward loveliness that exudes confidence, purity and a nobility that encourages those around them to be better — do better.
So what makes a woman feel beautiful?
Does it start with being noticed, being well known and being loved both because of and despite ourselves?
How can this happen in a world of younger, thinner, sexier, curvier, stronger, fitter, prettier woman?
We have to know that someone noticed us, and loves us with a love that is bigger than our minds can fathom.
“Lord, our Lord, how excellent is your name in all the earth!
You set your glory above the heavens!
When I look at the heavens, the work of your fingers,
the moon and the starts that you established
- what is man that you take notice of him,
or the son of man that you pay attention to him?”
(International Standard Version, emphasis mine)
and not only that,
Psalm 139:1-6 says
You have searched me, Lord, and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue you, Lord, know it completely.
You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too lofty for me to attain.
So sister, are you loved?
and more important,
Do you feel beautiful?
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