We’ve established that we want to be fun. No more “waaah me, waaaah me. This mom stuff is so hard.” We’re moms and we have little blessings running around and we’re ready to love it.
To make it easy, here are some FunMom guidelines I’ve invented for myself. See what you think:
1. Keep it simple.
Think play-dough, not Disneyland.
In other words, we don’t have to take the kids to Disneyland every day to be FunMom. It can be as easy as chocolate chips on their peanut butter toast, or coloring on the front window with dry erase markers, or letting them take a bath in the middle of the day (complete madness, I know).
2. Become YesMom.
Play a game that only you know about: How Many Times Can I Say “Yes” To The Kids Today?
3. Start to get organized.
It’s easier to have a fun mindset if we know things are taken care of.
Here are a couple of resources I’ve found:
31 Days To Clean (spring cleaning turned devotional!)
Motivated Moms (help with getting that daily housekeeping done)
4. Fight the lies that are whispered to us throughout the day.
You know, the lies that tell us things like:
“you must weigh 94 pounds to be skinny”
“your husband doesn’t love you”
“you are a bad mother”
Because they’re not true. And they’re not of God. Fight those lies with the truth: either with simple words like “Jesus loves me”, or a scripture (like this one), or a hymn.
5. When we’re wrong, or we make a mistake, admit it.
Turn from it.
Forget about it.
6. Give ourselves grace.
We’re going to mess up. There will be days when we aren’t fun. We might even loose our tempers or the house will be a disaster or our kids will act up. That’s ok. It’s not going to be this way forever. Just one day. Tomorrow is a new day.
7. Be realistic.
When we realize we have set goals that are too high we lower them.
Clues to know our expectations are too high:
soap got poured into the baby’s eyes and she has been screaming for 45 minutes, the perpetrator is also screaming. nobody is dressed. breakfast has not been served. friends are coming over in 5 minutes and you’re supposed to all go to church in 20.
Let’s be realistic. Call the friend. Change those church plans. Be OK with that. (this may or may not be based on real life experience.)
yelling in general. for me, yelling is a huge clue. If I am yelling at the kids, chances are my expectations were a little too high. (expecting them to do a job that may not match their age, or trying to get out the door when we’re already late). These are times when I yell. It’s also a clue that I need to be realistic. Let something go.
8. We choose a chore we know we can get done every day. And do it.
For me, this chore is making my bed.
Yes, I usually sweep under the table and I often get at least part of the counter cleared off and wiped down, but I rarely manage to do those things every single day. I can make my bed. When everything else is madness, I can walk into my room and look at my bed. One thing checked off my checklist.
9. Take time for ourselves.
Find something we like to do and pursue it. This could be exercise or a hobby or reading. Any old thing that’s just for us will do.
We can do this!
Do you have anything to add to the list?